Growing up I always had one or two very close friends, I was never the girl who had 10-20 girlfriends at her birthday party. I have struggled with making friends for as long as I can remember, I am a major introvert so it takes a lot for me to get out there. But I know that to mentally healthy I need other friends besides my husband and my grandma.
I think making friends in our 30’s is challenging for several reasons. We know the kind of people we want to be around, we are more self confident and women in their 30’s are busy as fuck. So how do we meet these girls?
Online Communities - Years ago I was involved in WW and had a good little instagram community, I happened to meet one of my very best friends that way. She lived down the street from me the whole time. Who would have thought. I will admit it is a little awkward to say oh yeah we met on instagram lol. BUT WORTH IT!
Women’s group - I recently became an ambassador for the Almost 30 Podcast, women in the community get together once a month and just connect on all kinds of things. It is amazing! Like minded, high vibe, bad ass women supporting each other and having an open space to talk. If you are in the Salt Lake City find the group on facebook!
Work Friends - These can be a little more difficult depending on what your position or job is but if I didn’t have my work friends I don’t know that I could come to work everyday. We don’t really see each other outside of work but I couldn’t live without these gals!
A great way to get started is talking to the girls in your pilates class, host get togethers and tell you friends to all bring a friend, join a bunco group. You will for sure get a social fix and you may make some long lasting friendships.
As soon as I opened up to making friends outside of the “social norm” I met a lot of amazing women.
I have taken inventory of all my friendships, how did I feel when I was around them, were we competitive with each other, was it an actual real friendship or just comfort? I had to make decisions for myself and distance myself from some, it’s about how I feel and I am going to take care of myself. #selfcare
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